I know a young man, we'll call him "Tim" who is seemingly discontent with his life. His excuse or reason is that he's a single father of two children, a girl, and a boy. '
If only' he would lament.
If only I had a wife and a mother for my kids, life would be so much better. His reasoning that his kids need a mother is false because they already have a mother. It's he who needs a woman in his life which is completely understandable except that he goes about it all wrong and never learns from his mistakes. I don't know about his first two wives, but he's divorced from both of them.
Several years ago, he met a woman with a small child and they hit it off great. He asked her and her baby to move in with him and his two kids after dating for just a month or two. Huge mistake. After a short time, she moved out, but Tim and she continued to date for years and even got engaged. Eventually they had a huge fight and they broke up.
A few months later, he met someone new and she seemed 'perfect'. He overlooked several obvious red flags (and she did, too) and after about two months, they eloped. She and her two kids moved in and she got pregnant. After just a few months things got to be unbearable and they went through a very messy separation.
A few months later, Tim met another woman, who was even
more perfect. This time, he moved himself and his two kids in with her and her two (or three?) kids after about two months of dating. It wasn't long before she too became pregnant. Things didn't work out and he and his kids had to find a new house.
So here's a situation where a person is so discontent that he keeps repeating the same action over and over again hoping for a new outcome instead of learning from his mistakes.
There is no contentment outside of God. Tim needs to pray about what God's plans are for him instead of just rushing in and making these Godless decisions on his own. He needs to consider the consequences of his actions on his children and the other children involved. He needs to slow down, hold off on sex, hold off on cohabitating and marriage. My late husband always used to say "when something seems too good to be true, it usually is." You can't possibly know someone well enough after just a couple of months. When you come to situations like this, it's best to
pray and
wait for an answer from our Father in Heaven.
So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness,
faith, love, and peace,
along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.
2 Timothy 2:22 ESV
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Please join me this week in praying for someone who is discontent.
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